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Nada Es Para Siempre

Translation: Nothing is forever. Learn about how this can help you cope with loss & your current situations! Read more here.

Translation: Nothing is forever.

Good Morning all! I hope all of you are having a fun and productive morning! If you’ve been following me on the ‘gram, you’ll see that I am currently packing for my next adventure to Colombia! Today’s topic is going to be on how we need to get used to the idea of things having an end, among other things.

So lets get to it!

In life, we have relationships, whether that be friendships or romantic relationships, and we often think: “Wow! This person is going to be my best friend, my person, for LIFE!!!”

And then a situation arises where you and that person no longer have the bond that would withstand time and whatever else was thrown at it.

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Friendships and relationships come and go. You lose some and you win some, but that doesn’t mean that you lose yourself in the process. The more you become accustomed to friends and exes leaving your life, the easier it is to accept that not every friendship was meant to go on forever. Not every relationship was destined to last for as long as you thought it would.

For those of you who have had someone or a group of people leave your life, for whatever reason, know that it is okay. This shit is more common than you think and that’s just how the dice roll!

It hurts a lot, but that’s just how life is, you just gotta get back up, form more relationships, lose some relationships, and repeat.

The important thing here is that you don’t allow yourself to be cold, distant to these relationships or live in fear that there’ll be one day where they’ll wake up and be like: “ya know what, I’ve had it with KAREN’s shit. I’m outtie, peace.”

We can’t live like that. So don’t live in fear of people leaving your life. Instead, BE THANKFUL! Because at least they’re making room for the next set of amazing people to come into your life.

Like I said, Nothing is forever. The same can be said about the people we lose. That being the loved ones who pass away, suddenly or by illness. Our families are not superhumans and we can’t expect that the people closest to us aren’t going to die. Newsflash: people die. We all die.

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Regardless of the reasons, death is something inevitable and it doesn’t matter at what point it happens, it still hurts the family who has to come to terms with the loss.

As many of you know, I come from a big, close-knit family (if this is your first time on my blog, click here for the whole story). I didn’t think of death often or ever, until one of my older cousins died in the summer of 2015.

The moment I found out, that pain hit me in a way I never thought it would. I wasn’t close with this particular cousin. The only time I ever really saw them was when they liked something I posted via facebook, yet aside from that I hadn’t seen them (face-to-face) in over 10 years. For as many times as I’ve gone back to the motherland, I never really saw them, I hadn’t seen them at all.

But one thing was for sure, that pain rippled through me, regardless of that small fact.

Little did I know that this would happen again, when another one of my cousins died in 2018. By this point, I noticed that I followed the stages of grief to a T. Much like the other situation, I hadn’t seen the cousin in a long time, but that feeling of loss and pain rippled right through me, just like any other pain and it brought me back.

The thing about death is that it’s an emotional pain that one feels, right? That pain is the kind that never goes away. We have to realize that the pain that we feel gets better to deal with in time.

Once we begin to realize that nothing is forever, that all things have an end, the easier it gets to be when dealing with loss.

We’ve already established that the “nothing is forever” mindset puts into perspective that all things have an end. However, we also have to think about how it’s a very realistic way of looking at things. It pushes us to think about how we lose people everyday, how we think about our current situations, whether that be our living situations, relationships, etc. It also makes us a more resilient in how we bounce back from our situations.

So now for the question, y’all have been waiting for: what’s the point? What is the point in engaging in relationships, when we have this nothing is forever mentality?

The point is we need people. People need other people because at some point in time people often help us figure out the woes of life. We all need someone (or a group of people) to help us navigate through those tough points in our lives.

Like I’ve said before, be thankful of the fact that they played a role in your life at one point or another. You needed that person at that point in time and they needed you in a dark or similar time in their lives.

In the end, we are all human.

We fail

We succeed

We love

We hurt.

It’s all a part of life.

This nothing is forever mentality serves as a way for people to gain perspective, that isn’t entirely negative, but to anticipate the fact that all things must come to an end.

So go out there and love as many people as you can or love as little people as you want.

Help out your one best friend now or don’t!

I don’t care! You have the power to pick and choose what you think will last. Other times, God and the Universe pick and choose for you what will last… And the results of that will surprise you.

Until then, stay strong, friends.

Sending all the love and light in this world,

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