Hi hi hi friends! I’ve recently graduated from College after 5 LONG years, which is beyond humbling. It has been so refreshing to be able to build on the same principles that I was taught in school, all while making notable connections!
Anyway, I understand that some of you haven’t felt that way and maybe have put on a couple of pounds and depending on where you are, there aren’t many places open for you to workout and do the things that you’ve always been able to do. I’m here to tell you, that it’s okay. I recently learned that each of us deals differently and that there is no one way to cope. It’s okay.
If there’s anything this quarantine has taught me, it has taught me the beauty of taking a moment to pause and notice all that is around me.
Now that things are opening up gradually by me, this post is going to cover the things that I learned in quarantine, while finishing up my last semester in school. So let’s get started!
1: Learning to be Patient and Present
If I didn’t enjoy living at home 24/7 and going out/ living your everyday life, then you’re in for a rude awakening. The very first thing that the quarantine taught me, was how to be patient and present with my family. Since all we had was each other, we had to find better ways to communicate with each other.
I’m one of those people who doesn’t handle change very well, so when this pandemic happened I really made it a point to check in with myself and get some help.
2: Letting go of the things I can’t control
This has been a recurring theme in my life. As a whole, I’m someone who likes to be in control of a lot of things in my life. I will say though, that I’ve gotten better at this in my life.
In the beginning of quarantine, I got into a situation that involved me and another person. I’ll spare you the details, but I found myself kind of going through that same pattern of wanting to control the outcome of the situation with this person.
I quickly realized that the situation was not meant to be controlled. I learned that once I tried to have control over a situation, I would start making expectations of what I wanted out of the situation. I often thought about how if I did a,b, and c, and how it would yield me the results I wanted.
I was wrong and I spent a ton of mental energy wanting something to work out in my favor, when in the end, it worked out for the better.
3: Understanding what I can control
Which brings me to my next point. Through letting go of the things I can’t control, I learned that I have control over two things: my attitude and my perspective on the situation.
Once I realized that, I learned how to channel that energy towards achieving my goals and being the best person I can be.
One thing that I took away from that was this idea of making sure that what I’m doing now is helping me get to a better me. I began to ask myself questions like: would this be something that future me would be proud of? How would this help me in the long run?
4: Focusing on my development
I made sure that this time in quarantine was a time where I was making sure that I was working on every aspect of myself. Whether that be my mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, I made sure that I was getting in touch with myself and God.
I used this time to learn more about myself and what I am capable of. If there was anything that this quarantine taught me, it was learning how this pause or hiatus in my life was much needed.
I needed this and now that things are opening up, I feel at ease, because I made sure to stay connected with myself and making sure that what I was doing now, was contributing to my greater purpose.
5: Redefining Values
A huge thing that has lead me to gain more confidence in myself, was identifying and redefining values that I had, but wasn’t aware of how to communicated them or make them known.
It’s really important to take some time to sit down with someone, mostly a loved one or even a therapist, and learn how to identify your values, through answering questions like
“What is important to you in life?”
It could be anything from being the best student you can be, it could be being the best athlete you can be and it could even be being the best mom/dad you could be. The list could go on and these can be applied in just about every situation.
The reason why defining values is important is because once those are known and put in place, they make it clear for you what you are willing to do when a situation arises where your values are being compromised.
These kinds of situations happen because of a miscommunication of values, which means that either you or the other person (or even both of you), didn’t make known to each other what you hoped to get out of the situation. What happens is a really interesting combination of “but I thought you wanted x?” and “I’ve made a mistake”
Figuring out what your values are and making them known in any dating situation or any situation you find yourself in will save you a ton of time and heartbreak from investing in someone who doesn’t have your best interests at heart.
Sending a ton of love and light your way!
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