Hello, friends! I hope all of you are doing well and are enjoying the summer! I’ve been working, taking summer courses, and doing just about everything under the sun! But the important thing is, I’m back and sharing with all of you.
So, the other day, I was hanging out with my cousin and we were just catching up, talking about life and everything in between.
We start talking about how they spent the past year literally going all out and later coining it their “sex and the city” year!
Now, to be completely honest, I’ve never seen Sex and the City, but I knew exactly what my cousin was talking about. My cousin talked about how they literally did whatever they wanted back in 2018. The best way they described it was; “I had the city without all the sex!” As they told me what they did, they went out and dressed to the absolute nines with their two best friends. The best part– they did it for themselves.
Anytime they went out with their friends, they would dress up and not have a care in the world about who was around; they didn’t dress to impress other people but for themselves.
And that, to me, is so empowering!
They literally lived their best life, by doing every single brunch in the city, going out to all the nicest restaurants, going to all the events, traveling, etc.
While they were out living their best life, they also gave themselves the opportunity to work on themselves
Now that my cousin has done everything they wanted to do. They’ve done it to a point to where they don’t feel any kind of FOMO– or Fear Of Missing Out.
What I’m trying to say is hearing this from my cousin, made me realize a couple of things:
a) I love the way my life is going right now; I don’t feel like I need a relationship in my life, I just want to work on myself and make myself the best person I can be.
b) I love that I am working my two jobs, going to school and really making sure I’m making connections in my field.
c) I’m taking full advantage of my twenties; if I’m not living, then I’m learning or I might be doing both on the same day!
The thing I want to drive home with all of you is that you all should be living your best lives, regardless of if you have a significant other or not! We are often on a search for the “right” person, but we neglect to realize that in order for that to happen, we have to be the right person for ourselves, first.
Be the “right” person for yourself, because the relationship you have with yourself should be a good one. If it isn’t, then work to make that relationship with yourself the ultimate relationship goals.
So in short, if y’all are looking for a chivalrous, clean cut, man (or woman) that you wanna take home to mom and dad or I should say the “right” person, you gotta be those things for yourself.
Use this time to really emulate the qualities you look for in a partner. Figure out what you want. Find out who you are and what you can bring to the table, relationship-wise. and then put yourself out there!
When you know what you want, you eventually find what you’re looking for!
I just want y’all to be the best version of yourselves.
Sending a ton of love and light your way,
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