A Dynamic Mentality

Hey y’all! I hope all is well with all of you. I’ve been really busy with school and work, but thankfully somewhere in between, I get moments where I have some down time to write. Which is great because I always love sharing with all of you on here.

So today I want to talk to you about logic and feeling. Even though they’re two completely different things, they actually take place in the same part of the body–the brain!

What is the difference between Logic and Feeling?

Logic is when you think about your actions before actually doing something. It’s something that literally makes you think realistically about your actions and the result of them. Logic is basically critical thinking.

In fact-as much as I hate admitting this- a lot of what math is, is it’s logic. In other words, math is very analytical or very thought and- again- logic driven. There are concrete answers in the forms of either irrational, rational, natural numbers or integers within the realm of math.

There’s almost always a precise answer.

Whereas feeling is abstract, it’s acting on emotion. Emotions are abstract. The way we feel things aren’t just based on things that we perceive, but they’re also based on how hard we feel these emotions.

For example, depending on who you talk to, the way someone describes the way they feel an emotion like love or happiness, varies.

I know that for me, when I love, I love hard. Love and surprise are some of the strongest emotions for me. For other people, it may be sadness and fear or happiness and love! Again, the way we feel and perceive emotions varies from person to person.

There is no right answer for describing the way you feel. You feel things for a reason and that alone has multiple answers.

Why does it matter to distinguish between the 2?

Because, as humans, we have the tendency to act more on emotion than on logic. When we do that, it can lead us to make irrational decisions and it takes logic–and often consequences of those decisions–to make us realize what we have done.

We often think that if a situation happens where someone pisses us off, we feel that we are entitled to fight back and let the other party know how they made us feel. This is essentially what acting on our emotions means. It means that it is our first response to any emotional pain inflicted upon us.

Which is fine and all, but there are constructive ways to address anger (more on that here). However, I’m not saying that you should swallow all your emotions and deal with problems you’re not ready to deal with. What I’m saying is allow yourself to feel your emotions, but understand that you can take a step back and look at things from a logical perspective.

See, when we look at things from a logical point of view, we have the opportunity to take our emotions–and any irrational decision making–out of the situation we are in and be able to make sound decisions, as well as make our feelings known without attacking others.

If you don’t feel emotionally able( or ready to deal) with the issue. THAT’S TOTALLY OKAY! No one is expecting you to take all of it and bury it at the bottom of your consciousness, or whatever. You are in control of how you react to things and you know yourself best.

For me, I used to confuse my logic and feeling. In many situations, I would let my emotions take the wheel, while logic took a back seat.

Case in point: I was in a weird on and off again relationship where I thought I could be friends with the person, but each time we went out, we would always–and I mean always– end with a kiss. What would soon follow was a text saying something along the lines of “so what does this mean for us?” or “Do you still have feelings for me?”… and this cycle would continue until one of us (me) broke down crying.

With the way I’m wired, I’m super emotional. Naturally, I let my emotions take control of the situation, because what better way to show that you care, than to put yourself and emotions on the line?

After many, many losing arguments, I learned that it isn’t about who cares the most or about putting yourself and your emotions on the line. Rather, it’s about who is able to maintain a level, logical head in difficult situations.

The only reason why situations between you and another person happen is because emotions are at an all-time high. Both of you are showing the other person who cares the most and when emotions run high on both ends, it can be a recipe for disaster because neither of you can come to a compromise.

It’s a matter of being able to take a step back and putting on your thinking caps. It is through taking a step back and evaluating all alternatives, that you can find the solution to your conflict.

I’m no perfect person and I still have my moments where I’ll let emotion take over, but those moments are happening a little less because I’ve been able to distinguish between when I am acting on my emotions and my logic.

Once you start to distinguish between feeling and logic, you’ll be more equipped to deal with your issues head on, without fighting and with healthy discussions.

And with that I leave you with this quote:

Sometimes you have to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.

Sending a ton of love and light your way,