A Dynamic Mentality

Happy Thursday y’all! I hope everyone is doing FANTABULOUS TODAY! I mean amidst all the piles of work I have to get done and not to mention finals coming up, I am well and good! I hope you all are doing well!

I know what you’re thinking, this title is kiiiiiinda misleading. In this post, I am not talking about backing that booty up, please, what kind of blogger do you think I am? haha. Seriously though, what I mean by backing it up is searching for your sources. My one rule of thumb: look at things objectively rather than subjectively. Take everything you hear about someone or something, with a grain of salt. Lately, I’ve been doing just that. I used to fall for anything and everything people have said to me, about me, which in the end, didn’t make me too much of a happy camper. Thankfully, I have learned about myself , since then and have realized that there’s always more to the story.

Back in high school, I was pretty naïve. By that, I mean I was pretty gullible, anyone could fool me and tell me the tip of the iceberg, maybe even enough of a story to get me to be on their side, because it’s high school. What better way is there than to get people on your side and have them pit against the other person, right? Most of the time, I would get my stories wrong and not have adequate back up, so I would most likely start forming my opinions without even bothering to hear the other side of the story.

That has gotten me into trouble… Many times… Mainly because I would speak too soon and say stupid shit I didn’t mean.

But If you want to know the whole story about someone you know, go to the source, the person themselves. Because getting the story through another person, as we may do so often, is kinda like the game Telephone, where the thing that was originally said in the beginning eventually changes as you literally pass the message down the line. What you start with, i.e the truth, isn’t exactly what you end with, i.e an over exaggerated truth from what the story actually is.

My big rule of thumb: Until you get the whole story, don’t say shit

I recently caught up with a friend of mine who I haven’t seen in the longest time. I’ve heard a bunch of stories about them and It honestly got to be too much. I had to go to the source and know what their side of the story was, before I could start forming my own opinions. I’m not going to go into too much detail about the story that was told because it is not my story to be shared with the world. What I will tell you is that what I had heard from them definitely changed my perception of what I thought about the whole situation.

What shocked me the most was the fact that people are willing to hear from people who weren’t directly involved with the situation. It’s like you’re getting a comment from the peanut gallery. What’s more is that if you rely on the story told by other people, chances are you’re going to be having the same opinions that they had. Their reaction, becomes your reaction.

Like I’ve said before in my previous posts, I am a genuine person, so in order to have a genuine opinion, you best believe that I’m going to go straight to the source, now.

Would you rather go off and get a story that you heard from someone else or would you rather go straight to the source and form your own opinions based on the real thing?