My oh, my has it been a long time or WHAAT?! Ha-Ha. I’ve been pretty good, just a little busy with some fall semester things, such as studying and trying to get everything in on time! But right now, I want to talk to you guys about something that I realized on my way home tonight.
How are we still friends with the people we talk shit about? Like remember the saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say it”? Does that only apply if we are saying shit to other peoples faces? What about when we talk behind another person’s back? Does the quote not apply? Time and time again, I have seen and heard people talk massive amounts of crap about the other person. The other person being, a best friend.
Don’t get me wrong, I am sure we have all fallen victim to this, myself included. I just find it completely ridiculous and fake that people still are in the awful habit of talking smack about another person, they claim to be friends with.
For myself, I honestly don’t do it anymore, because I know better than to talk smack about someone and pretend to be their friend soon after. Frankly, I’d rather cut this person out of my life than to have them around. It’s simple. If you don’t like someone, and they happen to be your friend and you are talking smack about them behind their back, what benefit do they have to you in your life? None. So why bother wasting your time and energy on someone who doesn’t share similar values? Why bother being around someone who only gives you negative energy? Why do you even bother with the fake attitude you have towards this person, when you have the potential to become a real person, a better person.
I never will understand why people stay around someone who only fills them up with an awful amount of negativity. Honestly, I have no room for fake people in my life, it is part of the reason why I am much happier, it is the reason why I am not as stressed out as I used to be. I can breathe easier now, because I cut out a ton of people who really filled me up with negativity and hate. That is no way to live, no one should live with a strong amount of hate in their heart. Spiritually, if you harbor a ton of negative energies, you become susceptible to a wide range of diseases, like mental illnesses. If you think about it, you are basically opening yourself up to all the bad in the air and it is enough to put you through an emotional wringer. I do wouldn’t wish that upon anyone.
Another thing, I will never understand, is the way people use other people to get what they want. In this case, we are talking about friends who don’t just talk mad shit about each other but how they, in turn, use each other to get ahead or something in return. Friendships don’t even work like that. Relationships don’t work like that! The way that all relationships, in general, work is if there is an equal amount of give and take, that there is an understanding between these two–or more–people.
To me, talking to someone only when you need something, is just fake. It really shows who you are and what your true colors are. To me, that is not, by any means, genuine. I’d rather be alone, then be around people who are constantly draining me, hitting me up only if and when they need something, and talking crap about me. To them, they think that’s okay because as long as I don’t find out what they say about me, I’m fine. Well frankly, I really don’t give a rat’s ass about the shit they talk about because at the end of the day who has me? ME. Like I said before, I’m not afraid to stand alone, nor will I ever be. I am proud to be who I am. I pray and hope that all of you may feel this way. I hope that you will find the strength in yourself to find a better friend, companion, whatever, and become the REAL you. Learn to love yourself enough, to walk away from any negative situation.
Sending Love and Light
“There’s nothing typical about Genuine Love. To be loved authentically is to be blessed beyond measure. Only a fool would take advantage of something that so many people yearn for.”
― Stephanie Lahart
A Dynamic Mentality 