What Is The Meaning of Happiness?

Hey all! I’ve been MIA for a bit, taking care of things, adulting, and everything else under the sun. Lately, I’ve been either reading, swiping left or right on tinder (I’ll explain later on in this post), or on Netflix for hours at a time. Through it all… I’ve been in a funk

That slump where you don’t feel like doing anything, where while you’re engaging in productivity, you kinda wish you were curled up, in your room reading, or doing anything but.

When I’m in a funk, there are times where I’ll ponder the meaning of a lot of things.

This time, I started thinking about happiness. More specifically:

  • What is it?
  • Why is it important?
  • What do we attribute it to?

Let’s look up the definition of ‘happiness’, shall we?

Def of happiness

Okay… Well that doesn’t give us much of a definition, but by the looks of it, it seems like the word is quickly getting phased out.

Why is it important that we are happy in our lives?

Being happy has been linked to lower stress levels and a sense of ease in one’s life. When you’re happy, like genuinely happy in your life, you have no time to focus on other pointless bullshit. You are busy working on yourself and building that happiness from within.

A lot of people, however attribute this happiness to money or another a person. And I’m just here to tell you the reasons why you shouldn’t attribute your happiness to these things

Money

The funny thing about money is that our moods change the moment that direct deposit hits.

We go from this

to this

Money is amazing, right? It’s the only thing that practically allows us to get anything we see a need or a want for, like clothes, make-up, the new iPhone, etc. However, does anyone remember the old adage “Money doesn’t buy you happiness”? Money can get you things to a certain point, but it can’t give you love, security or anything as abstract as the concept of happiness. You can’t even buy a personality with money or a new wife, HOW CRAZY IS THAT?

As a matter of fact, I’ve been watching this telenovela on Netflix called Sin Senos, No Hay Paraiso. Set in Pereira, Colombia, the show follows two teens and the poverty that surrounds them. Since the poverty rate in the area is so high, the teens decide to forfeit school and engage in some pretty lucrative stuff, in an act to get money, without the hard work.

Among the characters on the show, the teens’ mom explains that money isn’t everything in this world, that money isn’t meant to fix up every little issue that one has. Frankly, sometimes those problems, those deep rooted problems, can’t be remedied with insane amounts of money.

Another person

Relying on another person for your own happiness, is a definite no-no in my book. Yes, it’s nice that a person makes you happy, but they really shouldn’t be the boss of your own happiness. Like I said before, you should only be focusing on filling up your own cup of happiness. Let the other person be your overflow of happiness, not the consistency of it!

So I downloaded Tinder and with the help of one of my best friends, I was able to create a really good profile! In fact, here are some of the pictures I used:

and for my bio, I just put something short, sweet and to the point: Classy, never nasty, just a bit sassy✨.

The way that tinder works is that you have a set amount of guys in your area, you either swipe left- if you’re not interested- or swipe right, if you’re interested. On the first day, I received so many sweet messages, compliments, along with quite a few corny jokes. A good bit of the guys that I matched with (as in we both swiped right on each other), said the same line over and over: “Never nasty, huh?”

It was definitely an experience. Even though I lasted only four days on the app, I realized it wasn’t something for me. I think I’ve always known that and I just wanted to see what the app was all about, meet new people, all that jazz.

To be frank, I was not and am not looking for a relationship right now. I’m still working on myself. The fact that people actually look for relationships on tinder surprises me, because tinder isn’t built for that. It’s just built for people to meet, chat, and that’s it. This really opened my mind up to another area in the realm of dating and how easy it has become for people to meet, just by swiping right.

By the time I was hitting the fourth day, I noticed how drained I felt. Like this physical tiredness where all I ever did was just keep swiping, in hopes that I would get matched and have some sort of message sent my way. How unhealthy is that? How did I suddenly come to this conclusion?

It was then that I realized that If I was going to be physically and mentally drained from using a ‘dating’ app, why even bother using it? Why bother using or doing something if it doesn’t make me happy?

So I deleted my tinder because I realized that I could do without it and I’m going to be starting soon at a new school, where I’ll meet more cool people who share similar values and passions. Granted, I met some pretty cool people on tinder and may even stay in touch with a few, but as I’ve said before, it’s not something for me.

Before you do something, remember to ask yourself these 3 questions:

  • Are you going to be happy doing so?
  • Is it going to cause you a great deal of stress down the line?
  • Are you doing this for you or for another person?

The bottom line is: Happiness is being content with who you are. If you don’t feel happy with who you are, start by searching some ways that can bring you back to your happiest self.

Sending a ton of love and light your way,

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P.S follow my adventures on Instagram!

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10 Gift Ideas For The 20-Somethings In Your Life

Hey everyone! This post is not Christmas gift ideas, but rather gift ideas for people whose birthdays are AFTER Christmas, like mine (Aquarius in the houuuse!).

Are you tired of walking around aimlessly in brick and mortar stores looking for the perfect gift to give your sarcastic 20-something? Well look no further. I got just what you need and you don’t even need to set foot out the door!! So let’s get started!

So all of these things are going to be quick amazon buys that you can access from your tablet, smartphone, or computer.

Number 1: If you know your 20-something and they aren’t the greatest with placing things in their place, like their car keys, house keys, etc. you should definitely get them the Tile Mate-Key Finder

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With this Tile Mate, which can be clipped onto your car keys, you can actually set it up with an app that is similar to the find my iPhone app. It’s the same concept but if you know your 20-something is always missing something important, you should gift them with security from Tile.

Number 2: I used to drop my phone a lot and it wasn’t until I realized the consequences of that were pretty bad. I ended up getting a new phone and the one thing I made sure I had was a PopSocket

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There are so many colors to choose from and  they are so easy to use! All your 20-something has to do is just remove the backing and attach the pop socket to the back of their phone! Not only does this help to prevent falls, but it also works as a nice kickstand for whenever your 20-something wants to watch their favorite shows!

  • Use promo code: 50IAHFUEA  on a Jaagd iPhone X case

Number 3: If your 20-something is always on their phone taking selfies, doing work, or exploring life through every music festival, then it might be a really good thing to get them a… Portable Power Bank

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These things are honestly the best thing you can ever get for yourself or a loved one. They are so easy to use too! All you have to do is connect the USB charging cable to the power bank and connect it to your phone. BAM there you have it: your phone is charging on those day long festivals out in the west (yeah, I see you Coachella).

Number 4: If you always notice that your 20-something is all stressed and over worked from work, school, or just everyday stresses, make sure they make it a priority to unwind in 2018 and gift them something that will generate peace and relieve stress with an Essential Oils Diffuser 

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Essential oil diffusers are the best. There are so many essential oils to choose from and all you do is fill it up halfway with some water and add a couple of drops of the essential oils, turn on the diffuser and just watch as their worries drift away. It’s so easy to use and the best part is, YOUR 20-SOMETHING WON’T EVER NEED TO LEAVE THE HOUSE or set foot in a spa! Number 5: Essential oils sold separately here

Number 6: For the photographer in your life, why don’t you get them something that is a blast from the past, yeah that’s right, a Fujifilm Instax Mini 9 Camera

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I actually have an Instax mini 8 and it’s honestly one of my prized possessions. I love anything that involves taking photos and keeping memories alive. If your 20-something is somewhat like me and loves to document every moment, every memory then get them this awesome camera.

Number 7: For the artist in your life, get them pens that’ll last and that’l give them the creative-edge they have always dreamed of, get them the Arteza Real Brush Pens and send them on their way to an artsy future. Who knows where it’ll take them, but one thing is for sure, you would be the one to help them get there.

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One reviewer said, “Colors darken and don’t blend to well unless u dip the top of the brush on water to get that real water color look and feel but this set is still amazing and worth it! I use both with water and without.”

Number 8: Sketchbooks sold separately here

Number 9: If you have a loud and extroverted 20 something, gift them with something that expresses that, like a FANNY PACK!!!

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Haha in all seriousness guys, I would totally buy this for myself, it is so extra, just like me, and fun. I can wear it with anything, I can wear it to the beach. Who the hell says that fanny packs are overrated?! Say what you will, but fanny packs have always been a staple to me. Get one for yourself or someone extra in your life, here

Number 10: On the self care side, if you see that your 20-something is in desperate need of some TLC, then this is for them. Burt’s Bees is literally THE BEST when it comes to taking care of oneself! This TLC kit comes equipped with Burt’s Bees essentials, like the deep cleansing cream, hand salve, body lotion, nice little lip balm, and foot cream! A gift like this will definitely lift their spirits!

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Get it here

Let me know what you guys think about some of these gift ideas!

Thanks for reading!

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